Omigod! This does 'slain a lot! Who knew? I am still learning about being honest with myself and Recliner-chair Guy after 46 yrs.--I'm from a time just before female sexual liberation. The rules of the game in Japan sound awful to me; I want to run or chew nails or grab my guy and rip his clothes off and have hot monkey sex in the front entry way--with the door open!. (Conveniently, he's not home and he'll come in via the garage. Nowhere near the front entry way!) I understand the safety and comfort of living within one's own cultural imperatives, but sometimes it's good to cross-over a bit. It's how we grow. Not this, though. Nuh-uh. In my family, and that of Recliner-chair Guy, too, we learned to never say what is needed. Instead, one had to intuit everything, which almost always leads to misunderstanding, which proved that there was not-love. It's been the work of a lifetime to learn differently and even now, when we go to our elderly parents, we have to consciously remember that they 'do it differently', which is so frustrating 'cause we still get it 'wrong'--we still can't intuit correctly. A burden, for schizzle! Thx for this article. Makes the restraint of Zack-Aerith courtship understandable--he's Western, she Japanese? Cloud-Tifa--I keep urging them on...sometimes they listen and sometimes they still hang back long after I'm on the floor with frustration. mc
Seriously? The flirting, I get, but the sex...? Weird... Not that I would know, of course. And not that I'm one to judge other cultures. Just goes to show how different people are. But, whatever floats your boat, I guess.
Kinda funny, though ;p Still, might wanna be careful about asking people to take a shower in Japan.
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No wonder the Japanese birth rate is dropping!
Aaaaand now I'm HIGHLY tempted to work some of this info into a sex scene....
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(Anonymous) 2011-03-11 02:49 pm (UTC)(link)Seriously? The flirting, I get, but the sex...? Weird... Not that I would know, of course. And not that I'm one to judge other cultures. Just goes to show how different people are. But, whatever floats your boat, I guess.
Kinda funny, though ;p Still, might wanna be careful about asking people to take a shower in Japan.
-SF (who is, once again, too lazy to log in; but too o.O by this post not to comment)
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